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Couple Counseling? Maybe in timeā€¦.

Gary Direnfeld

I recently declined two requests for couple counseling. Couple counseling can be an intense setting where issues are laid bare. If a partner discloses issues of violence or abuse, it can upset the other who engages in such behavior. Couple counseling can be an intense setting where issues are laid bare.

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Think Beyond Counseling for Your Teen

Gary Direnfeld

While you or someone else may think a particular teen needs counseling, it doesn’t mean it will be helpful. It also doesn’t mean the teen will attend and if they do, it doesn’t mean they will engage. Absent those conditions, sending a teen to counseling can be a lot like arranging the deck chairs on the Titanic.

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Counseling? His Turn, Her Turn

Gary Direnfeld

He went to counseling just as she wanted. No matter how short or long a break he took to figure himself out and no matter how reasonable he returned, she was triggered by his not staying fully engaged and needing this time to process things. He had to address his anger. He learned to take a break if conflict arose.

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LGBTQ2

Gary Direnfeld

Some may seek to engage, argue, blame, etc. Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support www.garydirenfeld.com ā€“ to build your successful practice Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. This will not sit well with some followers. I value my Facebook page as a safe place.

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Oneā€™s Anger Meets the Otherā€™s Abandonment

Gary Direnfeld

He went to counseling just as she wanted. No matter how short or long a break he took to figure himself out and no matter how reasonable he returned, she was triggered by his not staying fully engaged and needing this time to process things. He had to address his anger. He learned to take a break if conflict arose.

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Narcissist? No, Others Donā€™t Get It.

Gary Direnfeld

Anything else is engagement. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice. Your moving on leaves it there. Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW.

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Child Between Separated Parents

Gary Direnfeld

After that beginning, I then engaged the child in a conversation about the parent they had just disparaged. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. When I asked if they practiced during the ride over, the child indicated with big eyes, the whole ride over. The child relaxed.