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Couple Counseling? Maybe in time….

Gary Direnfeld

I recently declined two requests for couple counseling. Couple counseling can be an intense setting where issues are laid bare. Interestingly, in both cases the callers were prepared to continue with couple counseling despite their disclosures of untoward behavior.

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Counseling and Change

Gary Direnfeld

That is the objective of all counseling whether it is how one thinks, feels or behaves. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. building your practice counseling marital counseling/therapy private practice - approaches and challenges

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Before Sending Your Kid to Counseling….

Gary Direnfeld

While I am pleased so many parents value counseling and want it for their kids, do know that it is not always helpful and indeed, can be harmful. Many kids interpret counseling as them having done something bad for which they must now talk to someone. So too with counseling.

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Counseling Items I Look For in the Target Dollar Spot

Kylie the Creative Social Worker

You can find some great counseling items in the dollar spot, but there are some that… The post Counseling Items I Look For in the Target Dollar Spot appeared first on Kylie The Creative Social Worker | All rights reserved The Target Dollar Spot.

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How Relationship Counselling Can Benefit You

Psychological Health Care

Relationship counselling with a professional therapist or psychologist can help improve the way you relate to your partner, assist in changing patterns of behaviour and help negotiate difficult periods. However, you don’t need to be in crisis to seek relationship counselling.

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Using a Daily Planner For Social Work or Counseling

Kylie the Creative Social Worker

With that comes many different documentation tools: your… The post Using a Daily Planner For Social Work or Counseling appeared first on Kylie The Creative Social Worker | All rights reserved. As social workers and counselors, we have so much to document.

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Invisible Loss: What is Fertility Counseling?

inSocialWork

Our guests will speak about coming to terms with difficulties related to reproduction and the promise of reproductive counseling, hope, and experiences of success. ? Covington, LCSW-C , is an expert in fertility counseling with over 40 years of clinical experience in reproductive health.

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Disconnect Bridged: Getting Closer in Your Relationship

Gary Direnfeld

As scary as the thought of counseling was, for them it worked. Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support www.garydirenfeld.com – to build your successful practice Gary Direnfeld is a social worker.

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DfE proposes law change to improve adults’ access to adoption therapy

Community Care

The government has proposed changing the law to make it easier for adults to access adoption-related counselling. This requirement applies even in cases where an adoption-related issue emerges during counselling sessions unless it is not the primary focus of the therapy.

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Books and Activities For Waiting and Self-Control

Kylie the Creative Social Worker

I spend a lot of… Blog counseling books elementary school counseling books school counselor library school social worker library self-controlI can never have too many books and activities for waiting and self-control. It is such an important skill!

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An Affair and Trauma

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse domestic violence marital counseling/therapy relationshipsPlease realize, an affair is a traumatic experience for the one cheated on.

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Hey, Tough Guy…

Gary Direnfeld

With that, the thought of counseling was an embarrassment. Join her in counseling, or leave. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse child behavior domestic violence managing life marital counseling/therapy relationships

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When the Request is Fix My Partner

Gary Direnfeld

They are seeking counseling as a last ditch effort hoping their partner will see the light and change. I ask that if they are seeking counseling for themselves they read the counseling page of my website and if acceptable, call to set an appointment. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse counseling domestic violence high conflict people managing life marital counseling/therapy relationships

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Growing Up With a Difficult Parent

Gary Direnfeld

The parent may blame the child and even seek for the child to attend counseling as a damaged individual whose damage is intrinsic to the child and not an outcome of the parent’s twisted parenting. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support.

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Thinking About Separating? Think About This….

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. collaborative law counseling court managing life marital counseling/therapy mediation parental separation relationshipsIt is not uncommon that when a person thinks about separating from their partner, they may contemplate it for years before following through. That means this person has had all that time to think it through as well as adjust emotionally.

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Money and Marriage

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. managing life marital counseling/therapy relationshipsI remember buying our son a chocolate bar when he was about 5. He reminded me to bring home the receipt for mom. He knew then we tracked our spending.

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January and You May Be Thinking About Divorce

Gary Direnfeld

6) Consider counseling. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. In the family law world, January is a busy month. It is traditionally the month with the most divorce filings of the year.

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When Your Partner Sits Around Playing Video Games and You’re Carrying the Family

Gary Direnfeld

This is where counseling comes in as well as a good consultation from a family law lawyer. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. managing life marital counseling/therapy relationshipsRemember that movie from 2006, “Failure to Launch?”

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Narcisisstic Ex? I’ll Bet You’re Nice!

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse high conflict people marital counseling/therapy relationshipsIf you are dealing with a narcissistic ex, you have had to deal with wondering if you are crazy.

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Nasty Ex? They may not be normal….

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse alternate dispute resolution collaborative law counseling court domestic violence high conflict people mediation parental conflict relationships

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Memory Failing? Check the Alcohol Consumption…

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. managing life marital counseling/therapy relationshipsThere is a condition that can look like dementia called Korsakoff Syndrome. It affects memory.

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About That Referral, It’s OK to Think Twice

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. high conflict people marital counseling/therapy mediation private practice - approaches and challengesI was asked about a referral of a person described as a narcissist. The person has apparently attended previous therapy on an individual and group basis. The marital and family issues continue.

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The Angry Child

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse counseling high conflict people relationships school related issuesThe child was about ten. He was angry. With his parents in the room, I asked about the relationship between his parents.

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The Difficult Conversation Starter

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. high conflict people managing life marital counseling/therapy parental conflict peacemaking relationshipsIf you are sensitive, you may be shying away from important conversations. In so doing, things left unsaid, unresolved, may fester. Those difficult conversations are important to have. You can start by acknowledging you have something difficult or awkward to talk about, but still need to do so.

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Nixing the Narcissist

Gary Direnfeld

Mine wasn’t counseling or therapy, but rather, coaching. Counseling or therapy typically focuses on one’s past or feelings and this isn’t as helpful in these situations. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support.

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Narcissist? No, Others Don’t Get It.

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse counseling domestic violence high conflict people parental separation relationshipsSeparating from a narcissist is like no other. The gaslighting yet charm; the outright lies, yet straight face; the abuses perpetrated yet attributed to you; the misdeeds yet denials. Trying to explain to someone with no experience of this is like spitting in the wind. It comes back on you.

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When Someone Shares Their Pain…

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. counseling managing life relationshipsWhen someone tells you of their pain, just listen. Do not try to solve or suggest they will get through it or ask to look at the bright side.

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Whose Homework is it Anyways?

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. child behavior counseling managing life relationships school related issuesThere’s a new crop of students, now in first year university.

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Parenting Teens – Accept and manage your role as consultant.

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. child behavior counseling managing life relationshipsParenting the infant, preschooler, school age child, the grown up is the boss. We set the rules, structure, expectations.

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Assessing Alcohol Issues: Context Matters

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse counseling managing life relationshipsShe only had one drink a day. It happened to be when the kids were arriving home from school. There were three kids, all girls. The eldest, nine, came in first.

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It May Be Trauma If You Experienced….

Gary Direnfeld

If any of this describes you, please consider counseling to explore and address issues arising. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse counseling domestic violence high conflict people managing life relationships

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Although Departed, Carry Their Voice With You

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. counseling managing life relationshipsThere’s something about the passing of a loved one who was your rock, your source of strength.

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Childhood Anxiety at Bedtime

Gary Direnfeld

Research out of Yale University suggests that all that help and soothing is an issue and instead of the kid going to counseling, it’s the parent who should. Seek counseling for yourself if necessary. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. child behavior counseling managing life school related issuesSome kids develop tremendous anxieties that emerge at bedtime.

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It’s OK to Jump the Train and Leave

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse domestic violence high conflict people managing life marital counseling/therapy relationshipsRelationships have a momentum.

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Child Between Separated Parents

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. The child was six or seven. I was seeing this child as part of an assessment to help the courts determine a parenting plan.

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Managing Your Child’s Anxiety.

Gary Direnfeld

Hence counseling for the parent to better understand the dynamics of anxiety and their role in management can be more helpful than the child’s attendance in counseling. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. child behavior counseling school related issuesThat childhood anxiety. As you ask the many questions seeking an answer as to why from the child, you may inadvertently be ramping up anxiety for you both.

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That Sense of Abandonment

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. counseling managing life relationshipsThat sense of abandonment doesn’t mean someone left you intentionally. It can also arise from a parent’s lack of availability.

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The Tools for Overcoming Mutual Hurts

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse counseling managing life marital counseling/therapy private practice - approaches and challenges relationshipsAlthough now in their 40’s and having barely survived as a couple through much turmoil, they were committed to working things out. Indeed, they had attended much therapy prior to our having met. They had done some good work already.

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Children and Domestic Violence. They Know.

Gary Direnfeld

gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. abuse child behavior domestic violence marital counseling/therapy relationshipsTrigger warning. This post addresses domestic violence. ?—————

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Alcohol Induced Dementia

Gary Direnfeld

They came for counseling. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. counseling managing life relationshipsThe fellow was going around town saying his wife was cheating on him.