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Empathy: You can acquire it

Gary Direnfeld

With emotional empathy we can feel what another is feeling. With cognitive empathy we don’t really connect on a feeling level with the experience of other. Where a person may be lacking emotional empathy, then cognitive empathy can be learned. Broadly speaking we can differentiate two types: cognitive and emotional.

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Managing the Coached Child Between Separated Parents

Gary Direnfeld

If however the parent shrugs it off, expresses empathy for the child caught in the middle and then redirects to what ever else they are about to do, then the prediction of the other parent falls flat. Then, if the parent does react negatively, it creates the impression that the other parent really knows what they are talking about.

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Even Counselors are Challenged by Narcissists

Gary Direnfeld

When I consult to counselors these situations, they are often showing some of the signs of distress as their child/teen clients. The consultation is directed towards helping the counselor better understand the disposition and motivations of the narcissist as well as how to set boundaries as inoffensively as possible.

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If You Don’t Want Your Kids to Grow up and Be a Narcissist

Gary Direnfeld

As we teach kids about others who have needs unable to be met themselves, we teach about empathy. Extend yourself modeling altruistic behavior built on empathy. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.

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When Your Teen Escalates

Gary Direnfeld

Once the parent gets a grip on themselves, empathy for the teen is required. Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support www.garydirenfeld.com – to build your successful practice Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Sadly this too only escalates anger, distress and conflict.

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Looking to Separate? You Likely Have a Head Start.

Gary Direnfeld

As crazy as it may sound, show empathy and respect. As much as you believe counseling for the other is necessary, so too may it be for you to best understand, plan and manage the recoil to your decision. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. Expect anger. It’s normal. Give space.

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Hey, Tough Guy.

Gary Direnfeld

As a mantra it can help you approach your boy with empathy and compassion. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.