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Couple Counseling: Is It Safe?

Gary Direnfeld

It’s not uncommon for me to decline a request for couple counseling. Risk indicators includes screaming, name calling, breaking of objects, hitting, pushing, shoving, choking, threatening harm, abuse of pets, limiting access to resources, police or child protection agency involvement. Screening for these issues is never perfect.

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For Some, the Greater the Closeness, the Greater the Perceived Risk

Gary Direnfeld

The learning for some is the closer you get intimately, the greater the risk of harm and/or betrayal. Just be open to self-examination. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. The thing is, even if you are with a good person, that fear, conscious or unconscious can undermine getting close.

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Leaving Home Before Your Time

Gary Direnfeld

They flee those conditions that being harm to self and others within the home. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.

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Disconnect Bridged: Getting Closer in Your Relationship

Gary Direnfeld

She thought him self-centered. She saw how speaking up brought harm to her mother. As scary as the thought of counseling was, for them it worked. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.

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When Your Young Adult Child is Totally Out of Control

Gary Direnfeld

The more you seek to set expectations, the more challenging the behavior, up to threats of violence, destruction of property, self harm, suicidal gestures. Counseling is often sought for the child. gary@yoursocialworker.com www.yoursocialworker.com for counseling and support. Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW.

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January and You May Be Thinking About Divorce

Gary Direnfeld

This only increases the likelihood of further conflict as well as emotional harm to the children. 6) Consider counseling. If individually, the purpose can be how to manage yourself under pressure and how to bring your better self to the negotiating table. While not a long term solution, it can help in a pinch.

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Changing Your Set-Point on Responding to Abuse

Gary Direnfeld

If from early on, you experienced trauma and were poorly supported, it may skew your set-point for self-protection. As you now take care of yourself, set boundaries and risk losing those relationships now understood as harmful and/or exploitive, you take charge of your self-worth and elevate it. Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW.

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