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Empathy: You can acquire it

Gary Direnfeld

With emotional empathy we can feel what another is feeling. With cognitive empathy we don’t really connect on a feeling level with the experience of other. Where a person may be lacking emotional empathy, then cognitive empathy can be learned. Broadly speaking we can differentiate two types: cognitive and emotional.

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Even Counselors are Challenged by Narcissists

Gary Direnfeld

When I consult to counselors these situations, they are often showing some of the signs of distress as their child/teen clients. The consultation is directed towards helping the counselor better understand the disposition and motivations of the narcissist as well as how to set boundaries as inoffensively as possible.

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Managing the Coached Child Between Separated Parents

Gary Direnfeld

If however the parent shrugs it off, expresses empathy for the child caught in the middle and then redirects to what ever else they are about to do, then the prediction of the other parent falls flat. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress.

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If You Don’t Want Your Kids to Grow up and Be a Narcissist

Gary Direnfeld

As we teach kids about others who have needs unable to be met themselves, we teach about empathy. Extend yourself modeling altruistic behavior built on empathy. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. Lead by example. Do so in joy.

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When Your Teen Escalates

Gary Direnfeld

Once the parent gets a grip on themselves, empathy for the teen is required. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. Sadly this too only escalates anger, distress and conflict. You see, underneath that anger, is likely fear. They feel thwarted.

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Hey, Tough Guy.

Gary Direnfeld

As a mantra it can help you approach your boy with empathy and compassion. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. When your boys cry, do not admonish, but seek to support, soothe and solve. Therein is strength and capacity and resiliency.

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Don’t Take That Away From Him

Gary Direnfeld

Rather than harsh punishments parents will show more empathy for his struggles concentrating on school related tasks. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. So the lad will continue with his job. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America.