Speaking so the Message is Heard

When something on Facebooks irks, triggers or or simply rubs the wrong way and you seek to comment or reply, how do you do so, particularly when it’s something you feel passionate about?

Do you respond pointedly, almost or actually admonishing as you deliver your reply?

Are you sarcastic, using some bitter humor to cut, yet inform?

Do you believe in “speaking your mind” with a belief that it is within your right to get a point across with less concern of how it lands?

Do you come across respectfully and compassionately having a sense of the view of the other yet wanting to be informative on another perspective while remaining respectful in the delivery?

There are many ways and tones with which to deliver information.

The real challenge is recognizing if and when there is an emotional aspect in our felt need to reply or comment and then managing it so as to remain informational and respectful.

It is in an informational and respectful delivery that the message of what we seek to transmit is best received.

Therein we may have a better influence towards a positive outcome: to be heard and respected ourselves for the information important to our perspective.

Self-reflection aids in this approach as does practice.

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, former parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.