Mixing In On Your Ex’s New Life – Don’t Do It!

She thought she would do his new girlfriend a favor. She decided to tell her he was a narcissist. She just wanted to warn him. You know, a sisters thing.

Trouble is, it backfired.

The new girlfriend was still in the charming and love bombing phase with him. She loved this guy. Next to her previous boyfriend she thought he was amazing.

The new girlfriend had already totally bought it when he explained his ex was crazy, so when she called to warn her of him, it was just taken as evidence of her craziness and maliciousness.

With that his stories of her keeping the kids from him were also accepted so she would pile on when the kids did visit, telling them how awful their mother was.

The relationship between the new girlfriend and her ex was solidified on the basis of her being the enemy. It lasted for years.

I’m sure you can appreciate the moral of this one.

Certainly think twice about jumping in on your ex’s new relationship.

Keep your boundaries tight.

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, former parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.