See the Good in Your Current Relationship

Some folks don’t recognize the good relationship they are in. They risk losing it.

Either the trauma of past relationships undermine trust now or the intrusions from one own family interferes.

If the former, an abusive prior relationship can have one walking on eggshells, waiting for the shoe to drop. There is a lack of trust that interferes with ever getting close.

That can be felt by one’s partner who reasonably may take offense. However, with a decent person, even if offense is taken, they don’t get mad as much as the may get sad.

Even if mad though, they seek to just talk it out and for some, just go with the flow.

It the latter, one is forever running to the demands of one’s parents forsaking the needs and wants of one’s partner or even one’s kids.

Here, the partner is tolerant and patient even if frustrated by your lack of availability.

In these instances, recognize that you likely have a good current partner.

Be careful not to undermine a good relationship because of your own issues arising from past abuse or a poor ability set boundaries with your extended kin.

A good relationship is one with a relatively peaceful partner who pulls their weight, is appreciative and can otherwise live with those parts of you needing work.

If that’s what you’ve got, mind yourself, be appreciative and address your own issues lest not you squander something good.

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, former parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.