For Some, the Greater the Closeness, the Greater the Perceived Risk

Why would you want to invest in a relationship if what you saw between your parents was yelling, screaming, put-downs, or even hitting, pushing, shoving and perhaps even injuries?

The learning for some is the closer you get intimately, the greater the risk of harm and/or betrayal.

The thing is, even if you are with a good person, that fear, conscious or unconscious can undermine getting close.

In what could be a good relationship that can undermine intimacy and sink it.

Many are unaware of the impact of those growing up experiences on present day relationships.

Being insightful still doesn’t mean one sees all that occurs beneath our awareness.

Just be open to self-examination. Be ready to learn some things about yourself you may never have realized.

With that, you are available for growth and the possibility of a better relationship than you witnessed growing up.

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, former parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.