When You’re Turned into The Bad One

That gaslighting. It causes so many to believe they are somehow to blame for matters actually originating with their partner.

Ways to tell if you are being gaslighted include:

If you feel somehow someone has flipped the script and you find yourself on the defensive when trying to address their behavior;

If you find yourself confused in the discussion wondering if you did did something wrong;

If you find the other disproportionately angry for things you are simply trying to clarify or resolve.

Gaslighting can be crazy making. You feel like you’re out of your mind with this person, but yet with no one else.

It just may be that you have been gaslighted.

Step back. Gain perspective.

Do know one rarely wins arguments with such a person. This is something you just have to realize for yourself.

It can be like a dose of smelling salts when you first figure it out. That’s the first step in healing and then dealing….

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, former parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.